October 19, 2010

Logically, being gay or bisexual are as much a choice as being heterosexual, which is to say not really at all. While I think both genetic predispositions and environment play a part, I also think that at no point is it a conscious choice. If I were to give a weighting, I would weight nature as a more important factor than nurture.

Furthermore, I have quibbles with the conception of sexuality as some kind of set of which a person can be gay, straight or bisexual. (This kind of conception where there are three clearly demarcated boundaries also seems to ignore trans-preferences?) I conceptualise of sexuality more as a continuum which one exists on and can move about, but that one does so unconsciously and the degree to which one moves on the continuum is probably quite limited (e.g. you’d be unlikely to get a hyper-straight person moving to hyper-gay or even through to bisexual). Added to this, there’s probably another continuum which ranges from hypersexuality to asexuality, which a person will also move along and which will determine how important a person’s sexuality is to themself (not necessarily other people, sadly).

April 21, 2010
Elderly Gay Couple Forcibly Separated, Abused, Robbed By County Officials in California


Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place—wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold’s care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes. Ignoring Clay’s significant role in Harold’s life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold’s “roommate.” The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold’s bank accounts to pay for his care.

What happened next is even more chilling: without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold’s possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home andconfined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold’s lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county’s actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years. Compounding this tragedy, Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property.

Clay is now suing the county, the auction company, and the nursing home. This story should get as much attention as Constance McMillen’s story. More attention. There should be protests outside the hospital and county administration buildings.


Disgusting treatment.

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